NATIONAL BESTSELLERBeing a teenager has never been easy, but in recent years, with the rise of the Internet and social media, it has become exponentially more challenging. Bullying, once thought of as the province of queen bees and goons, has taken on new, complex, and insidious forms, as parents and educators know all too well.No writer is better poised to explore this territory than Emily Bazelon, who has established herself as a leading voice on the social and legal aspects of teenage drama. In Sticks and Stones, she brings readers on a deeply researched, clear-eyed journey into the ever-shifting landscape of teenage meanness and its sometimes devastating consequences. The result is an indispensable book that takes us from school cafeterias to courtrooms to the offices of Facebook, the website where so much teenage life, good and bad, now unfolds.Along the way, Bazelon defines what bullying is and, just as important, what it is not. She explores when intervention is essential and when kids should be given the freedom to fend for themselves. She also dispels persistent myths: that girls bully more than boys, that online and in-person bullying are entirely distinct, that bullying is a common cause of suicide, and that harsh criminal penalties are an effective deterrent. Above all, she believes that to deal with the problem, we must first understand it.Blending keen journalistic and narrative skills, Bazelon explores different facets of bullying through the stories of three young people who found themselves caught in the thick of it. Thirteen-year-old Monique endured months of harassment and exclusion before her mother finally pulled her out of school. Jacob was threatened and physically attacked over his sexuality in eighth gradeand then sued to protect himself and change the culture of his school. Flannery was one of six teens who faced criminal charges after a fellow students suicide was blamed on bullying and made international headlines. With grace and authority, Bazelon chronicles how these kids predicaments escalated, to no ones benefit, into community-wide wars. Cutting through the noise, misinformation, and sensationalism, she takes us into schools that have succeeded in reducing bullying and examines their successful strategies. The result is a groundbreaking book that will help parents, educators, and teens themselves better understand what kids are going through today and what can be done to help them through it.Praise for Sticks and StonesIntelligent, rigorous . . . Emily Bazelon is a compassionate champion for justice in the domain of childhoods essential unfairness.Andrew Solomon, The New York Times Book Review Bazelon does not stint on the psychological literature, but the result never feels dense with studies; its immersive storytelling with a sturdy base of science underneath, and draws its authority and power from both.New York A humane and closely reported exploration of the way that hurtful power relationships play out in the contemporary public-school setting . . . As a parent herself, Bazelon brings clear, kind analysis to complex and upsetting circumstances.The Wall Street Journal Bullying isnt new. But our attempts to respond to it are, as Bazelon explains in her richly detailed, thought-provoking book. . . . Comprehensive in her reporting and balanced in her conclusions, Bazelon extracts from these stories useful lessons for young people, parents and principals alike. The Washington Post ...
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Sticks and Stones: Defeating the Culture of Bullying and Rediscovering the Power of Character and Empathy Reviews
The book that made me 20 times LESS terrified to someday become a parent. I grew up with instant messaging and was fortunate enough to have experienced little to no internet bullying or harassment. So the thought of helping my future children navigate this mindfield was terrifying. Ms. Bazelon helps sparse out what is really bullying and what is teenage social drama, how students and parents can counter this, and how we all can help pressure social media sites and local governments to provide th ...more
There are a lot of things to take away from this book; much to absorb. Bullying is nothing new. Even though society didn't acknowledge it until very recently, it has existed in fiction for generations, going back to the 1800s. Remember Nellie in the Little House on the Prairie books?
Throughout the three stories Bazelon details, there are patterns: trouble, escalation, and a search for solutions. Consistently, the author seeks to answer the question: How do you address bullying, create an orderly ...more
This book is wicked nuanced (how IRKSOME in our soundbite culture!). Bazelon blends storytelling and research beautifully. Sticks and Stones offers solutions that are really about changing the culture of schools -- they're not facile. (I am on record as loathing the movie Bully because I felt it was torture porn with a fake-y uplifting ending that made a conscious choice not to offer context or meaningful, strategic solutions.) This book addresses the role kids have in getting bullied (without b ...more
In Sticks and Stones, Emily Bazelon does a commendable job staying objective. She researches the stories of three kids who have been bullied, showing that bullying is typically much more complicated than it seems on the surface. As she explains, the media tend to portray these cases in very black-and-white terms, which is not an accurate reflection of the facts. She describes the different types of bullies and victims, showing how in many cases, the victims are not entirely blameless and bring t ...more
An editor and journalist with a law background, Emily Bazelon's intense examination of what bullying is today began with a series on cyberbullying in the online magazine, Slate , and culminated in a highly contentious article called "What Really Happened to Phoebe Prince?" - much of which is explored again in this book.
Bazelon has taken a refreshing, level-headed approach to a subject that in recent years, thanks to the internet and social media in particular, has become sensationalised to the ...more
This book gives good insights into why kids bully and suggestions as to how to handle bullying. I found the stories of the three teenagers very interesting and upsetting. I definitely was angry with the bullies, but I also found myself angry with the bullies' parents a lot, which doesn't surprise me since children can turn out like their parents. There were moments that I read about the parents where I wanted to actually rip the book up because I was so frustrated and angry (the only other book ...more
I found this book very balanced and informative. The author chose 3 very good examples of bullying to study in depth. The children's stories were compelling and Brazlon did not follow the general practice of demonizing the bullies and sanctifying the bullied. She also did not fall into the trap of making the schools the culprit either. In some cases, the school was insensitive, but in general, they were doing the best they could to tackle the problem.
This is a very complex problem and there are ...more
This would be great for a book club…
Sticks and Stones helped me to think about my role as a social worker, volunteer crisis counselor, and maybe-someday parent. There are reviews here that poke at the problems with the book – mostly Emily Bazelon’s narrative – but I also want to emphasize that this narrative is still important and very worthwhile, which I discuss below.
Since it shouldn’t be overlooked, let’s start with a central problem. Sticks and Stones is a blend of stories, research, and ref ...more